Nobody loves to suffer.
So, when you’re transforming trauma, when you’re meeting big or unbearable pain, it makes sense that you might consider the best response is to push it away, run from it or pretend it doesn’t even exist.
There are countless schools of thought on how to heal trauma. After working as a trauma therapist for over 20 years, and weaving in my awakening awareness and clairvoyant gifts, I’ve discovered incredibly effective ways to view and work with trauma that are not normally taught.
Here, I’ve highlighted 6 of those ways for you to gently shift your attitude toward trauma and unlock new paths toward healing.
Enjoy these tips in beautiful slides that you can screenshot and share, or scroll down to read the list in simple text.
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Myree Morsi | 6 Ways to View (and Heal) Trauma Differently by Myree
Here’s my list in simple text…
1. TRAUMA IS NOT YOUR FAULT.
Why:
Trauma is the biological and evolutionary response to a human experience.
It’s how the body has evolved to code and respond to intense events. (And as humans, we ALL experience different forms of intense events.)
Attitude in Action:
Let yourself off the hook, tell your inner critic to back off, and remind yourself that you simply experienced one of the vulnerabilities of being human and having a biological form.
(Meaning: your trauma does not own or define you forever.)
2. BE EXTRA GENTLE TO YOUR PAIN.
Why:
Every part of you is worthy of love — including the most injured parts. The pain that’s become trapped in your body is worthy of love and needs it the most.
Love is the most powerful tool to grant freedom, and the pain is terrifying energy that believes it is stuck in its fear. With love, you help the pain soften its grip, let go and be free.
Attitude in Action:
Make a safe space where you can grow a gentle relationship with your trauma and pain.
Develop a loving awareness that is capable of compassion without judgment.
Offer this awareness generously to your younger parts, your lonely parts, your terrified parts…to every part of you that has been wounded.
3. TRAUMA SCARS ARE REMINDERS TO BE KIND, NOT ASHAMED.
Why:
Scars are reminders of things you’ve survived.
If you have a scar on your body, you probably don’t shout at it or hate it. You simply recognize: this is where there was an impact to my body, and my body healed it (or tried to, and did a good enough job so I am still alive).
If you’re busy shaming a scar, you miss out on honouring your abilities to keep living when things got tough.
Attitude in Action:
Sometimes, a physical or emotional scar can tingle, flare-up or catch our eye in a mirror. In these times, we’re being reminded to offer it a moment of compassion — to offer ourselves a moment of compassion. Then, we continue with our day.
A trauma scar is a reminder that “Yes, I was wounded. And every so often, I am reminded to bring my attention to it and be kind to it (to myself).”
4. TRAUMA INITIATES GROWTH.
Why:
The capacity and attitudes you cultivate through your healing journey become sources of personal and spiritual power.
You deepen and expand your range for meeting things in life with skill — opportunities and love, as well as challenges and pain.
Attitude in Action:
Adversity shows us what we’re made of.
Trauma asks us to cultivate courage, awareness, depth, personal power, resilience, compassion and so many other gifts and meta-skills.
5. TRAUMA CAN CHANGE YOU FOR THE BETTER.
Why:
You’re not the same person you were before the trauma, or before the memories returned that were long forgotten.
If you allow it, the knowledge and wisdom gained through the experience can make you more sensitive, tender, empathic, focused and open.
It’s up to you whether you allow trauma to make you bitter or compassionate.
Attitude in Action:
Acknowledge the positive changes and growth you’ve had.
Dream into utilising the “new you” to elevate your life, and maybe the lives of others, too.
Play with gratitude as you consider the changes your trauma journey initiated.
6. PRACTICE OPENING THE DOOR AND INVITING THE TRAUMA IN.
Why:
Hold a welcoming attitude toward trauma (toward all parts of you), and you will position yourself to regulate a healing relationship at a pace that feels manageable.
Attitude in Action:
Trauma might knock on your door at the wrong time, you may not want it there in that moment. Or you may wish it never came to the door.
If this happens, whisper through the keyhole and ask it to stay outside for a while. You can say, “Hello, I’m not ready for you yet, but I acknowledge that you’re out there. I need you to not come rushing through the door. Let me peek through the keyhole and get to know you first. To find my ground and safety. Then, I’ll invite you in.”
ULTIMATELY, THE WAY OUT (OF TRAUMA) IS THROUGH...
…with your safety-building stepping stones of awareness, compassion, kindness, LOVE and eventually gratitude.
Take a moment to listen inward. What gifts and skills has a trauma awoken in you? Are you willing to help it loosen its grip and be free?
With passion for your freedom,
