At some point in our Awakening journey, most of us wrestle with some form of aloneness, loneliness, or deep isolation.
We can feel actually physically isolated, meaning we have been called to withdraw, be on some kind of more hermetic path. Or we may still be surrounded by all of our continuing relationships, yet still feel really alone because the Awakening process is differentiating us.
The aloneness of Awakening and the pain of loneliness can cause a lot of suffering, self-admonishment and frustration. We can become disoriented, losing a sense of our “fixed points” around community, friendship, and family, etc.
In my work, I meet people in all states of grief and misunderstanding. Grief and misunderstanding generated by the pain of loneliness, inundated by self-criticism that there is something wrong with them for experiencing that, yet flailing because they have lost energy or capacity to connect with others at the moment.
Watch the video as I talk about the different ways that people can experience this kind of aloneness and why it happens to us. The most important thing I want you to understand is that for most people, this deep aloneness is generally a phase that actually has some very specific transformational purposes which are accomplished during it.
There are misaligned relationships that I speak about here.
There is the cultivation of profound spiritual awareness, wisdom, and gifts. There is the ability to live in alignment with who you really are in your Awakening.
In the time of isolation, you are building the foundation of your return to the world more fully embodied in your Awakening.
I see clients and students often shift from being agonized by the isolation to finding deep solace in it as a respite and a place to bloom as Awakening purification and gifting deepens.
In the video, I give you tips, perspective and understanding so that you can rest with more ease on what is not only a painful but a very meaningful part of your journey.
And remember, it is not forever!
Let me know your thoughts and reflections in the comments below.
May this video bring you safety, confidence, peace, and the capacity to expand more deeply on your own Awakening path.
Big love,
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Thank you for your reassurance. I am nearly two and a half years into my
awakening experience and I have had to work through past traumas which have been deeply healing. I am definitely in a lovely ‘alone’ phase and am secretly loving it (now I have got over the guilt and boundary setting that my old people pleasing self nudged me into for years. I think I’m embracing and enjoying it now as an incredibly freeing experience. A recent revelation is that I don’t have to justify this distancing to anyone, and I’m confident now that whatever will be will be. Family and friends who don’t get it and drift away aren’t meant to be major parts of my life moving forward. I’m especially starting to enjoy the space this gives for creativity, although my long covid sets boundaries on what I can do. But even my health is slowly improving as I take this special time out. I’m sleeping better, have more colour in my cheeks and am definitely able to do more functionally. I do believe that the answer to my health is authenticity. That is the most powerful gift kundalini has given me – the golden key. I am learning to be more at peace with myself and see people in my life at the moment like books that I’ve placed on a bookshelf. Some will become dusty and un-read I am certain, some will be read again – time will tell. But I’m looking forward to new chapters too – new books! It’s very exciting! I have hope now. My meditation practice is evolving too. I feel as if after my initial kundalini blast that the energy had slowly been working up through my chakras one by one. It’s definitely in my third eye now, I can feel the clearing. That’s another powerful word for me – clearing. You need space for a clearing, space to heal, space from people and demands. I’m learning it’s okay to be in my clearing looking after myself for a change. I’m really loving being in it and can’t wait to emerge from it. But it’s so reassuring to understand this is part of the process, so thank you with all my heart for the light work that you do xx
Dear Kathryn,
You bring such gravitas and wisdom to your experience coupled with play and joy, what a wonderful internal potion is bubbling and brewing away inside you to purify your own unique expression! Thank you for taking the time to communicate this evolving journey with me and any others that read it here, and I hope they do because it speaks of hope. I love your insights, the way you adopt your inner guidance and follow it so clearly.You feel so on path! Fabulous and keep going.
Big love,
Myree x
Thankyou Myree. This is the most accurate description and explanation of where I have currently found myself. Normalising the process and also seeing how active my critic has become has given me navigational skills to be able to lean in and work with the energy more deeply. I shall grab my new paints and let soul dance me through this time with the excitement of what emerging and growing.
Dear Kelly,
I feel the excitement too! You have the aligned energy to get the most out of this situation, Kundalini loves to dance, you will make compatible partners.
Happy creating together!
Big love!
Myree x
Beautiful words Myree, you have such a gift expressing the awakening process.
This resonates with me and brings to me support, care and love
Dearest Kate,
In these simple words I can feel your sincerity and genuine appreciation. It means the world to me, I’m so grateful that I get the opportunity to connect with people in this way.
Big love to you!
Myree x
I felt very lonely and desperate to find new friends for several years, which was difficult. I now find myself in a place where I have even fewer friends, but freer and more at peace about it than I have ever been. I find it satisfying to take a step back from a lot of relationships and instead focus on myself, my kids and husband even more. I look forward to meeting my new tribe and friends in the future, but I am not in a rush and I am enjoying this time. It is truly fulfilling to be happy alone and I am so grateful for that.
With love,
Sara
Dear Sara,
This is a definite success story for the blessings and wisdom that can come with embracing aloneness! I appreciate that you took the time to share so other people who may be struggling in a different stage from you can read this comment and feel into the calm joy it holds. This attitude is the definition of a hopeful outlook, you can be very proud of your mature spiritual outlook and the attitude you bring to such a difficult concept. There is such true joy and contentment of being with self that shines through this, you are truly mastering this phase of awakening. Yay!
Big love,
Myree x
This is an incredibly well timed message for me. Thank you so much Myree for putting this out there. I see myself experiencing both loneliness and aloneness, and they undoubtedly have different qualities to them. Growing up away from my family cultivated loneliness inside of me at a very young age that I’ve carried with me for most of my life. And this loneliness certainly comes up time and time again to be processed and healed. And then there are times when I feel the pull into aloneness and there’s almost a peaceful quality to it. I do see my inner critic and self judgement come up as “I am still not out and about in the world…” and “still figuring out my healing and my life…” . And even my tendency to people please so as to become a more ‘acceptable and friendly version’ for others… however I am aware that these are the very patterns that are deeply ingrained in me and are coming up at this stage to be healed.
This post is extremely reassuring and supporting. It’s very comforting to know that I am not the only one experiencing this and that there is much deeper purpose to it. Thank you once again, Myree.
Dear Aarohi,
Wow! This warmed my heart, I feel so much gratitude that these videos can reach and touch people like you in such a supportive way. Thank you so much for writing in and explaining how this impacted you and being courageous enough to speak openly about your own experience. I found so much value in reading your words, this comment hit home for me. I feel that you saw my authenticity and matched it. I also love your discernment between aloneness, loneliness and the different subtle influences that contribute to them and your clear seeing through trying to change yourself to be beyond the current phase. Awesome awakening exploring and presence with what is.
Big, tender love,
Myree x