When you are in a relationship and also going through a Kundalini Awakening, deliberately not awakening your beloved partner’s Kundalini can be a big, protective and radically important issue to ponder. It’s a question that is often confusing and lonely.

It is the flavour of the moment to go to a practitioner or an event and get your Kundalini intentionally activated. Sometimes this journey of activation goes well. However, in my practice I find that this ‘unprepared-awakening’ tends to be hugely problematic for a lot of people and is very consequential, not in ‘great’ ways. All the emphasis is on activation and not a lot on education prior to activation.

For some people, a consciously chosen process of  Kundalini activation may go well and sustain for a long time. A vast number of people though may have limited awareness that Kundalini is a fierce purification process that they are unprepared for, and that they may not have chosen, had they been educated and prepared.

People want to activate their Kundalini because they are told stories of Kundalini  being ‘bliss’ and ‘grace’ (which is ultimately true!) but that is not the enduring experience until you are well into the process. It can be a beautiful honeymoon in the opening phases until she shifts into purification and delivers a very big shock as she starts to sort through the inventory of your personal history and all the things that you have not finished.

I have met many people who have told me they were sold on Kundalini activation with ideas of unicorns, rainbows and sparkles when she is in fact the divine force of the universe, a one way ticket to a huge body of work, and from the moment purification starts you will have two jobs  – your life and your awakening – until it is complete. 🌿

In this video, I share something that is really important –that many people going through awakening will question:

How do I exist in a loving relationship?
How do I care for my family?
How do I do my job and not activate other people’s Kundalini?

This is especially important in intimate and sexual relationships where there is a lot of physical contact and opportunities for the transmission of Shakti and therefore the activation of your partner’s Kundalini.

Many of the people that I meet seek to be very responsible with their Awakening because they understand the gravity and the nature of the process and don’t want to impose it on another person when they are not ready and not seeking it.

They seek to honour the freedom, wellbeing and sovereignty of their partner. 🫂

In the video, watch as  I explain some tips and ideas on how you can explore creating very strong intentions with your own Kundalini, to prevent the unwanted transmission of Shakti and unsought activation. I hope that you find it helpful and that  it gives you some doorways for your own crafting of relationship and intention with Kundalini in your world.

Please share your own thoughts in the comments below.

Transcript of video:
If you have awakened Kundalini, awakened Shakti, and I often teach this to my students, you can be very intentional about how your Kundalini, how your Shakti, which is the energy of Kundalini, it’s like sacred packages, fractals of divine energy that can transfer from me to you, from me to a group, from anyone who has awakened Kundalini to other beings.

So you can be very intentional in terms of creating an agreement between your Kundalini and the way it behaves and be very intentional with your own Shakti and system that your purpose isn’t to awaken other people’s Kundalini unless you’re very clear that it is.

And I’ll often teach this to my students when they’re in a relationship and they want to avoid activating the Kundalini in their partner because their partner either doesn’t want to have that experience or doesn’t want to go down that path.

So anyone can do it, you just need to take time and be very, very clear.

So when I’m teaching, I’m teaching the subject that I’m teaching, I’m not coming into a class to activate your Kundalini because I believe that should be a conscious choice as much as it possibly can.

Of course, we have spontaneous Awakenings all the time because it’s so easy to awaken these days because the frequency on this planet is very high.

But you can also be intentional in terms of how you transfer that energy and whether you transfer it.

So my Kundalini energy helps me to teach and to hold a beautiful sacred space and to elevate people so that they can access high levels of consciousness.

But you can do that without activating someone’s Kundalini.

People can access beautiful healing frequencies and levels of insight and intuitive knowing and activate more of their own sacred gifts without you needing to deliberately activate the Kundalini in order to do that.

So there’s such a great diversity and range of how we can teach as awakened teachers.